Brooklyn | New York
Agency Attorney for the New York City Department of Social Services
WHAT SHE DOES FOR LOVE: I'm an attorney, +model, writer and floral design enthusiast
LADIES SHE ADMIRES: Paula Edgar. She's a brilliant attorney and coach who I've been SO fortunate to know throughout my legal career. She lives her life in service of her communities, takes on adversity with so much aplomb and does it all while staying fly and keeping her brilliant smile. I love her and admire her greatly. Please check her out @thepaulaedgar.
HER GOALS: Professional (short term): launching a legal practice that helps creative professionals understand the legal things they need to be successful and whole in their business.
Personal (long term, I guess?): Babies, a loving, supportive partner. Well, that's not a "goal" but it is an intention I'd like to fulfill in my life.
ADVICE FOR FELLOW LADY GUNS: You were not put here to be like someone else or to live the dream of another person. You were put here on Earth to share your unique gifts with the world. Be the most you. Bless the world with your unique expression. We need you!
Photos by Seher Sikander
What did being a part of the TFTT project mean to you?
It was a unique opportunity to combine my love for my people (in this case, Black women + femmes) with expressions of my journey as a woman of color in this country. Unique in regards to the aforementioned combination but also unique in that I was able to meld my individual creative expression with my community members, which was emblematic of the significance of having a seat at the table. I'm humbled and honored that my expression could be a refraction of the Black woman/femme light that shines in TFTT.
What advice would you give to women who are struggling to find their seat that the table?
First, breathe, because you are here. Next, consider that your seat at the table is not something to be found. Because you are, and because you live and breathe, you are already at the table. Be empowered when you acknowledge that your "seat" exists because you do. Have that seat! You can speak while at the table, but it would also serve you and others to listen to what others at the table are saying.
What is one thing you do every morning/night that makes your day feel complete?
Meditation. My day isn't complete without some silence and centering.
When and/or where do you feel most energized?
I feel the most energized when I'm creating - a flower arrangement, a "look," a meal, something I'm writing. For me, more creativity = more joy.
What is your favorite thing about your workspace?
The colors! I love color and it keeps me inspired... visually inspired anyway.
What is one challenge in your job/day? And what is one thing you look forward to?
One challenge in my job is tending to all my projects and responsibilities in a timely fashion (y'know, deadlines matter) all the while being available for giving advice if needed and also to make time for a break.
What keeps you focused or inspired?
My faith in the Universe keeps me focused. My love for my people keeps me inspired. And by my "people" I think of all the communities in which I exist: as a woman, a person of color, a black person, a mixed race person, a hood native, a child of immigrants, a Caribbean-American, a multi-passionate creative, an attorney, etc.
What do you do or who do you turn to when you need creative inspiration?
I write about whatever's around me, whatever's in my head. If I can get my hands on some flowers, I'll put together an arrangement. Or I will play to the song that's running through my mind (I usually have a song on in my mind...)
How do you build yourself up after self-doubt or adversity?
I breathe. I affirm my certainty in myself and the Universe. I express myself (via writing). I talk to someone with a kind ear and insight.
What is a challenge you've overcome, personally or professionally, to get to where you are today?
Healing a broken heart after a multiple-year relationship and healing my relationship with my parents - the healing that took place with one facilitated the other. It's been so freeing.
What has been your biggest sacrifice?
My self-loathing. It was comfortable. Self-love is amazing and freeing, but don't get it twisted: it can be shaky and scary to fully trust yourself and the Universe's guidance.
What does success mean to you?
It means being connected to LOVE in whatever I'm doing.
What makes 'It' "worth it"? Why do you do what you do?
The worth comes in my ability to be of service. I do many things but in the end, I'm all about serving as many people as possible, about uplifting and empowering the marginalized.
RECOMMENDATIONS IN HER CITY: SmartGlamour: It's a clothing company whose mission and motto is "fashion for all" and the woman behind the company, Mallorie Dunn, is SERIOUS about "all." SmartGlamour stands for fashion for all bodies, period, any size, any ability, any color, any shape. ALL BODIES. I've modeled for them, and written for SG's blog, and I am proud to be an ambassador for the company.
Brooklyn Brainery: It's a small school with two locations in Brooklyn and they offer a wide variety of courses in the way of self-development. I've taken courses on American Sign Language, making beaded jewelry, improving personal finances, floral design. They offer language courses, cooking classes, tarot card reading, etc. And the courses are so affordable.
READING RECOMMENDATIONS: I just finished reading The Universe Has Your Back by Gabrielle Bernstein - highly recommended for practical, practice-based advice for getting in touch with Universal support and guidance. Currently reading The Keys by DJ Khaled. I'm tryna win like Khaled!!!! So far, I am extremely inspired by his voice and his insight.